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How Do You Want To Be Remembered?
Another class discussion. The question was posed to us. A classmate started to speak up about her experience with a certain client group.
“When we worked with autistic children…” she began.
At this point, our lecturer, J, gently interrupted her.
“You mean children WITH autism.” J corrected, a smile lining the corners of her mouth.
My classmate paused for less than a second of a heartbeat before starting over with a sheepish grin . “Right. When we worked with children with autism…”
And that was that. Nothing more was said about the correction. Neither party asked the other why the correction was made, or why it was necessary, or what made them use the phrases/labels they did.
But I think, at the back of all our minds, that exchange stuck. And for me, personally, it drove home a very important message.
The message that we are first and foremost dealing with people. Children. Not the autism, not the disability, not the illness, not the condition. The importance of seeing them as human beings FIRST, before anything we do will be able to have any effect on them or their lives.
May this lesson stick.
Hurray for subtle lessons and learning~!
“How did you fracture your thumb?!”
“I was playing soccer, then I fell and my thumb turned the other way, then they brought me to hospital, and the x-ray show that it was fractured.”
“Wow.” I couldn’t stop staring at the thick cast around his hand and wrist.
“Cher, I have the picture of the X-Ray, wanna see?!”
“What? No! No, please keep your x-ray. I do not. I do not want to see your fracture! And please take care of yourself!”
The friend, watching with amusement nearby, quipped:
“Cher, he level up!”
Though I looked at them in great amusement at that moment, on hindsight, isn’t what the boy said true?
Everything adversity, every challenge, everything that doesn’t kill us, DOES help us to “level up”. We learn from experiences, we become stronger, more matured, more resilient. Just because we have not hit the next “level” does not mean that we are not on the way there.
Just another day when I learn from those I supposedly teach.
Conversations become meaningful when…
They enhance our cognitive, mental, and emotional capacity.
There is exchange of thoughts and ideas, hence widening one’s worldview and perspective.
Imagination is prodded to take flight.
Bonds are strengthened through experiences, thoughts and ideas shared.
And so there are times when I’d rather have conversations with myself.
The Adrenaline of Spontaneity
“Ewww there’s hair on the cloth! It has to be yours!!” A disgusted brother yelped as he gave the dining table a wipe after dinner.
“It’s not mine!” I instinctively replied to his glare.
“It all starts with denial.”
“You sound like a teacher… Still considering?”
“Of course not! Me?! Teach in a school!”
“It all starts with denial.”